I was reading some relationship advice by Demetria Lucas aka "Belle", blogger and writer for Essence Magazine, and someone asked her this:
I'm a pretty, intelligent, independant, successful woman. I'm 32. I find most men are either intimidated or just want to sleep with me. I prefer an out of the box thinker, who's not in the "in" crowd.... help?*blank stare*
*2 blinks*
I can't do anything but shake my head because the opposite sexes never think to acknowledge the differences between themselves. The woman who posed this question has probably never considered the idea that.. maybe, just maybe, guys don't find her that interesting. So, you are an "intelligent, independent, and successful woman"? Great. He'll be sure to hit you up when he wants to go half on a business venture or when he needs some stock market advice...
..but being an upward advancing, "glass ceiling" breaking, gender role hurdling machine is mostly impressive to yourself.
ANYWHO, It's your personality that people draw interest in. Think about how you have always met friends in the past. You sold yourself, not your escrow account. I know it sounds like I'm beating a dead horse, but I just don't get why people turn meeting others into quantum physics. The next time you get to ranting about how you can't find the right dude, or dudes only want one thing in spite of your 6-figure salary, consider the notion that maybe you just aren't that interesting. *Walks away laughing at the fact that you bout to google "Brandon Roy"*
2 comments:
Ha, the last part has me dying.
Ha! great post! I am definitely this girl. Thanks for the advice:)
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