Re: 8 Reasons to Date a White Man

Oct 12, 2010

So I was sittin’ in my room last night, vibin’ to some smooth tunes by Coltrane…

And I happened to stumble across an article that apparently had the internet up in arms last week. Excuse my tardiness, please. The article was entitled “8 Reasons to Date a White Man” by LaShaun Williams on (Link - for those of you who would like to read it in its entirety.) Nevertheless, here are the highlights:
1. “degrees become intimidating when dating Black men. In White culture, education is valued and expected”
2. “They may listen to rap music, but they are smart enough not to act it out.”
3. “They have no problem turning a hoe into a housewife.”
4. “As a result of their insecurities and low self-esteem, Black men are intimidated by the strength of an educated and ambitious Black woman. What Black men see as threatening is what makes a great wife and business partner to them.”
Quite Frankly, the author of this article sounds like an extremely dedicated house slave. One day she’s going to look her black husband square in the eyes and tell him:


Demonizing black men in an effort to justify her preference toward white men? Blasphemous. Self-righteous. Misinformed. Take your pick!

Honestly, every attempt at me writing a response to this article has failed, because I am swarming with QUESTIONS as opposed to clever rebuttals:
  • Am I wrong for thinking this author is completely delusional? Or do black women actually share in her jaded perceptions?
  • Where does this animosity toward black mean derive from? Failed relationships? Everyday encounters? The media?
  • Is this entire issue even about love and relationships? It sounds more like a business option. Why not choose to date white men simply because you like them, as opposed to a last resort, because black men aren't doing it for you?
  • What ever happened to personal accountability? Making responsible choices in who you choose to be with and answering to those consequences instead of shifting blame.
Chime in.


RawrSavvy said...

I understand her point though it is not a justification but I agree with her, somewhat. As an educated Black woman, I find it hard to find black men who are not threatened by me or rather that have sense themselves but that never swayed my opinion on who to date based on race.

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